Starting a new school can feel like a big step. If you’ve moved into a new foster home and are getting ready to get started at a new school, it can feel like a lot! New faces. New routines. New everything. And on top of all that, you might be wondering: How am I meant to make friends here?
The truth is, you’re not the only one feeling that way. Lots of people – even the ones who look super confident – worry about fitting in and making new mates. Whether that be starting at a new school in a new area, moving from Primary to Secondary school or even joining a new club or activity. So, if you’re feeling a bit nervous, you really are not alone.
Here are some simple ways to help you feel confident and start building new friendships.
1. Smile and say hi
Sounds basic, right? But a smile can go a long way. Saying “hi” to the person sitting next to you in class or at lunch might be all it takes to start a conversation. Even if it feels awkward at first, people often appreciate the effort.
2. Look for common ground
Got a favourite TV show, game or football team? Mention it! Shared interests are a great way to connect. Try asking someone what music they’re into or what they do outside of school – it’s an easy way to break the ice. Another easy way into a conversation with someone who you think might be cool is by paying attention to your classmate’s items— maybe they have a pencil case from a game you both love, or badges on their backpack of your favourite band.
3. Join a club or group
Clubs are a brilliant way to meet people who like the same things as you. Whether it’s drama, sport, music or something else – getting involved gives you a chance to chat, have fun and be part of something.
4. Be yourself
You don’t need to change who you are to make friends. Real mates like you for you. It’s okay if you’re a bit shy, loud, funny, serious – or a mix of everything. Just be kind, be open, and give things time. You might be wondering if you should tell new friends that you live with a foster family , and that is totally up to you, when you are ready.
5. Talk to a trusted adult
If you’re struggling or feeling a bit lost, speak to your foster parent, a teacher or someone you trust at school. They might know someone who could buddy up with you, or they could help you find ways to feel more settled and join in with others.
6. Give it time
Friendships don’t always happen overnight – and that’s okay. It might take a few days or even a few weeks to feel like you belong, but that doesn’t mean you won’t get there. Keep showing up, being kind, and giving yourself credit for the small wins. By showing up each day and being yourself, you’re bound to meet some fantastic new friends.
A fresh start can be a good thing…
Starting somewhere new might feel scary, but it can also be a fresh start – a chance to make new memories, try new things and grow in confidence.
You’ve already made it through big changes, with your move from your family to a foster family, and that shows how strong you are. So, take things one step at a time – you’ve got this! 💪